SETIA INDAH

As I read other bloggers' raya experiences, I envied them! How I wish I could have a calm and productive raya. Since atok got into her state now, the whole family became chaotic. She got 6 children. Mak is the second youngest and the most-reliable person to take care atok. As they claimed. They think mak is single and with just 2 independent-daughters. So mak don't really have lotsof burdens compared others who still got children in school, or grandchildren to take care of. But mak also has her own pressure. At her age, she gets grumpier day by day as a result of atok's senility. Atok challenged our patience with her foolish infatuations time to time. She could irritated us with her sharp words, with her unhygienic doings. Just imagine, she could just wipe her face after her morning wake up by just using our curtains. She could just take cat's litter with just by her bare hands! Then after 2-seconds hand-wash then she could just eat anything with that same bare hands! Ya Allah, this is really challenging! As well as a great test to her children and grandchildren.

With atok critical situation now, everyone tries not to involve too much in this matter. As her two sons just keeping themselves quitely, left with mak and uteh. The other 2 children are bounded with their sickness. One has been stroked, one has been doing dialysis for almost 2 years. This raya is full with anger, arguments, sarcastic comments and all sharp-words. I have been fed up with all these!! Why cant they sit in one table and discuss with one another? Why do they have to blind themselves over this crucial matter?

At last, I suggested to uteh a suggestion which I think the best for everyone. I said, if this continues year by year and none of them gets a solution to the problem, this matter will affect our family ties! In a year, we have 12 months..divided by 4 children so each person will have their own time to take care atok. However, in consideration of each family's other internal problems, we will divide it into this ratio 4:3:3:2. Mak will take 4 months, both utehs will take 3 months each and pakcik will take 2 months as he has another crucial problem in the house. In that case, I think as long as atok live, everyone will have their own portion in taking care their own mother! I really hope we will have one agreement to this, as next year is just around the corner. Ya Allah, we are humbly ask for your help to let us through this test with great patience!